a word of advice: open your windows. wash your sheets. exfoliate your legs. read a paperback. make your bed. moisturize every inch of your body. go to sleep with soft skin and sheets that smell like the wind and a mind full of words worth dreaming about
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do older generations not get fatalistic humor?? like the other day my friend’s parents were hanging around and we were joking and i was like “well no matter what i can always fling myself off the nearest cliff” and they didn’t laugh then later the mom pulled me aside and was like “maybe you should get some help, sweetie” like stfu?? help? in this economy? i don’t think so, debra
I honestly don’t think they get it as a coping mechanism, they think it’s a cry for help rather than actually helping.
i’d even say it’s past just coping and is also now a category of Stuff Kids Got Used To When No One Was Looking; not everyone using that humor is even covering up something bigger, we just stopped thinking fatalistic = taboo/unspeakable somewhere along the line, and most parents don’t seem to know why or how ~
My boss opened a door and missed me by inches, he said “whoops, almost killed you there!” My result of “Oh, if only.” Led to an awkward end of shift debrief.
This generation shares the same humor as the goddamn Addams Family and the previous generation is the White Sixties Family™ that lives next door and runs away screaming at the end of the episode
I will say that it’s interesting because this kind of humor is very, very prevalent somewhere else…
the military.
Which is honestly a place you would expect fatalistic humor to be common and used as a coping method. You’re one “oops” away from death on the flight deck, one inch to the left and you don’t have a head anymore because the jet that just landed now owns it as a wing-tip decoration. So you joke about it because lowkey you’re fucking terrified it’ll happen, but you’re also desensitized to the danger itself because you face it every single day for 12 hours at a time.
Anyway so we all know the mindset you adopt in the military because of the danger, so to realise that an identical sense of humor has been adopted by normal people should probably tell you something very important about the amount of stress modern young folks experience in daily life.
That last one… it’s true
It was also common in previous generations that had to deal with say, war and economic depression on a massive scale.
One of my favorite movies is Singing In The Rain which came in out 1952, right on the tailcoat of two world wars and a looming cold one, and for all it’s a cheery happy musical, it’s got this really bleak witty humor too, things like “call me a cab!” “okay, you’re a cab!” or the scene where Don says he’ll be homeless by the next day and Cosmo cheerfully tells him not to be ridiculous…the bank bailiffs don’t open till Monday.
And then quite probably one of my favorite opening lines, where two young girls are watching Lina on screen and one says
“She’s so refined. I think I’ll kill myself.”
Which really resonates with a lot of the things we say now when talking about people we find personally attractive, meaning not only is fatalism not a new trend, but those two girls at the starting sequence of Singing In The Rain are totally there for Lina, not Don.
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My landlady (age 75) says I have her mother’s sense of humor. Great Depression, anyone?
My family has moved past worrying when I joke like this and now jokes with me. The only thing I can afford in this economy is a sense of humor
Being both a millennial AND a veteran, it’s blaringly obvious why I am the way I am.
I’m fucking….dead……“the only thing I can afford in this economy is a sense of humor” @succulentcutie
i’m graduating this week and i wanted to make a post of advice (academic, social, and self care) that i learned throughout high school
academic
if you have a bad teacher, read/take your own notes on the textbook! it can be tedious but it pays off on the test, since the test is most likely going to be based on the book.
do your homework and do it well. even if assignments are only 20% of your grade, doing your homework will help you so so so much on test day.
on that note, do your homework as soon as you can after school. get it over with and just think about how much more relaxed you’ll feel when it’s done (you might have to literally force yourself- just tell yourself you only have to work for five minutes, and once you start you’ll want to finish it)
don’t buy so many new school supplies!! buy a few of those Mead refillable notebooks or their flexible binders, some highlighters, and a pack of muji 0.7 pens on amazon and you should be covered.
start thinking about post high school plans early- whether it’s 2 year college, 4 year college, military, starting work, etc.
unless it’s a big project, stop doing ur homework at midnight and just go to bed. not all nights are going to be easy, but you should try to make cramming homework late at night an occasional thing
social
be loyal to your friends, you’ll be happy to have good friends later on
don’t date someone if you know you shouldn’t!!!
watch how much you drink if you go party- make it your goal to not throw up (also there’s no point if you don’t remember the night)
leave people that make you sad, it isn’t worth the drama or heartbreak
^^^ also avoid drama as much as possible (AKA don’t talk shit, don’t start shit, don’t take shit)
these are my three commandments for getting over a shitty relationship: 1) unfollow 2) block 3) delete. use them (unfollow on social media, block them so they don’t see what you post, and delete old photos and conversations. phones/social media make it so much harder to get over someone)
be friendly to everyone! you don’t need to be friends with everyone, but just be nice. high school is already hard, don’t make it worse
self care
S L E E P
find a hobby outside of school- it can be an extracurricular or just something you do at home. but find something you love (things to try: guitar/piano! learn another language online! reading! skateboarding! weight training/body scupting! running! art! etc!)
read outside of school, learn outside of school
hang out with relatives/family more. you might get annoyed by your parents at this point, but remember that you’re like the biggest thing that has happened to them. hang out with your siblings/ cousins, ask your grandparents about their childhoods and culture before it’s too late. (unless your family is abusive, this piece of advice is more for people like me whose family was good but i treated my parents badly and my grandparents died before i could get to know them. it’s just me)
make sure you eat something fresh every day- i know it’s hard to eat healthily when you’re a teenager and your friends always get mcdonalds, but jus make sure you have some fruit/vegetables every day
get a small job if you can, it feels good to make your own money. save as much as you can of it! (my rule was save hundreds, spend tens. so if i got $447 on a paycheck, i’d save $400 and spend $47. you really dont need to be spending that much at this point, saving will do more good)
there is obv. more advice you could be given, but these are some of the most important things i’ve learned throughout high school. learn from my mistakes pls and good luck!! it goes by fast
